Overcoming the stigma

Navigating the guilt of eloping so you can celebrate your love

Eloping, the act of exchanging vows in private rather than hosting a large traditional wedding celebration, has become more and more popular in recent years. Despite its growing popularity, many couples still feel guilty about not including their friends and family in the celebration, or fear what others might think. You are not alone!

Whether you are considering taking the elopement path or have already decided an elopement is PERFECT for you, navigating these very real feelings is something everyone deals with in one way or another. Let’s explore how to recognize and overcome the guilt around choosing to elope instead of hosting a full wedding.

Overcoming the Guilt

Communicate with Loved Ones

It’s important to acknowledge that feelings of guilt around eloping are natural. Society has a certain expectation when it comes to weddings (despite what we have been trying to change over the last year). It’s easy to feel like you’re disappointing others by not following that expectation.

Even more than this, family and friends may have been looking forward to participating in your wedding celebration, and the thought of not being able to share that experience with them can be difficult. However, it’s important to remember that the wedding is about the couple and their commitment to each other. While it’s natural to want to include others in the celebration, the most important thing is that the couple is happy and comfortable with their decision.

Focus on your love

It’s easy to get caught up in societal expectations and the opinions of others, but it’s important to remember that the wedding is about the love and commitment between the couple. Focus on what truly matters and why you’re choosing to elope in the first place.

Create New Traditions

Elopement is NOT a consolation prize. An elopement can be an opportunity to create new traditions and make memories that are unique to you as a couple. Instead of following the traditional wedding format, you can create your own celebration that reflects your personalities and values.

Seek Professional Support

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the guilt and fear of others’ opinions, consider reaching out to a professional wedding planner or counselor for support. They can help you navigate the difficult conversations and provide advice on how to handle any negative reactions.

Choosing to elope instead of hosting a full wedding can come with feelings of guilt and fear of others’ opinions. However, it’s important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being and remember that a wedding is about the love and commitment between two people. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, make sure to seek out professional support and communicate with loved ones about your decision.

Find more advice on eloping in the latest issue of our magazine! And be sure to follow us on instagram where we highlight the PNW vendors who specialize in elopements.